Navigating Kids Through Your Spiritual Crisis
Spiritual Crisis. We all have one eventually. I must confess, some mornings I didn’t even want to get out of bed. At times, life is rough and like all followers of Christ, being a Christian doesn’t make it any easier. But I got another confession to make, when my kids (5, 4 and 2) climb on the bed, lay on me, wrap their arms around my neck, kiss me and say “I love you, daddy,” it makes getting up a little easier! It’s the joy of being a father!
Like I said, being a Christian doesn’t make life any easier, and most of the time (if Bible is right, as I believe it is), it’s harder. So, when your life is hard, your faith is small and hope even smaller, how do you make it through that “spiritual crisis” with your kids in tow? Often these times are filled with spousal arguments, decreased desire to read your Bible and attend church. More than likely you’ll experience an undercurrent of constant frustration, hurt, pain and the kids will tend to react chaotically. I know. It’s really hard.
Whatever you’re facing whether the loss of financial stability, disease, loss of a loved one, marital trauma, and everything in between, here are a few things that can help grow your kids even during those times of spiritual crisis (and FYI, I am by no means an expert!).
Hold your kids Often: Physical touch can mean so much in times of trial. Try to make time to sit there and hold them. Fit all of them on your lap if you still can! It can make a world of difference for you and your kids (Granted, this may look different if your kids are older, but there are ways this can work for all age groups!)
Apologize When You Lose Your Cool: Kids are pretty resilient and understanding. If, in your frustration, you snap and overreact toward your kids, apologize as soon as possible. It is healing for you and them (it’s also a great model for them to witness as well).
Pray Over Them Before Bed: As much as possible, pray for them when their awake and you’re tucking them in for the night. You often can’t control your faith crisis, but you can pray that God will protect them and grow them through it. Have faith that He will answer that prayer. He works all things out for the good of those who love Him.
Do you have any others ideas that have helped you raise your kids during a spiritual crisis? Please share…